Disclosure: This is a sponsored post, for which I have been compensated.
This month I’m partnering with @FamilyLifeNWA for sponsored content.
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1.  There is nothing harder when you move to a new city than trying to
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3.  Every week, I have a calendar item that pops up to say “anything
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see what he sees

I was having a
conversation with my mother in law Saturday about a picture of herself that she
did not like. 
We all have them.
Pictures that look great except for that lady in the middle or on the end or
sandwiched between those other 2 cute girls. 
As women we are often
crazy self critical. We don’t like our hair. Or our face without make up. Or
our boobs aren’t lifted enough. Or we need to loose a little weight. Or……

when he sees me - what does he see? can I see me like he sees me? @bigpittstop #newpost
I remember a valuable
lesson I learned on our honeymoon. We were sitting in our room getting ready to
leave for dinner. I had on minimal makeup. I had left my hair wet and tried to
make beach waves. I had on a sleeveless dress in March and my cheeks were sun kissed
pink. I was annoyed and ready for dinner and did not want him to keep snapping
pictures of me. 
But, when we got home
and I was going through pictures of our trip I saw it. Those pictures from that
night. I’m sure I have too many layers of self criticism layered over them like
an extra effect in photo shop. But I saw some of it. 

when he sees me - what does he see? can I see me like he sees me? @bigpittstop #newpost

That girl in the photo.
She was vulnerable. Her heart was springing with young love. Her dreams were
coming true. I hope he sees a warrior, a fighter. A woman who had learned hard
lessons about trust and obedience and all that made his beautiful wife. 
It’s the same way I
bet my father in law feels about the picture he had on his phone. She hates it
because it represents a hard time in her life. But I’m guessing to him, the
picture of her sitting on the end of an exam table at MD Andersen means a lot
to him. He sees a fighter. Someone who was deep in the battle for her life, yet
still had a big smile on her face. The mother of his children and everything
about her is imprinted on their lives. He sees someone who by her faith and the
way she lives it out spreads hope far and wide. 
But, we rarely see
any of those things because we are looking at our outfits or posture or body
shape. Let’s give ourselves the same grace goggles, we offer others, when we look at pictures of ourself. What do
other people see when they look at us?
Bravery. Honesty.
Grace. Hospitality. Kind, giving, caring spirit. Mother. Lover. Hero. Friend. 

whats in my basket: Easter lesson for teens

On Tuesday afternoons, I spend time with some really cool teenagers at the Mary and Martha Center.  This weekly outing has become one thing i look forward to most every week.  Its a place I’ve started to build community and I love teaching and digging open God’s Word with a group of teens.

This week, with it being Holy Week, I was really hoping to try something new.  We have spent much of the year looking at our Passion and Purpose in life, but I felt like we needed to take a break and look at something specific.  I’ve dug for 2 days online looking for ideas and lesson plans.  I wanted to do a “stations of reflection” type thing but not make it so serious. We are not guaranteed a specific amount of time together, so I have to have a lesson that can be pretty flexible. 

The students I work with come from a variety of backgrounds, so I always feel its safe to never assume what stories they know, how deep they have dug in to a passage or verses, or that they have even read the passage I’m teaching that day before. So, as I prepare, I usually try to keep it basic and make sure we have one good truth we are aiming for to walk away with.  After all these kids have already been in school all day and are really there to serve the younger kids.  But I get 20 and sometimes 35 minutes to just share a truth and what God’s been teaching me. 

Since I really couldn’t find what I wanted online, I decided to just make up something myself. (Go figure!)

What's in the basket? An Easter Lesson for Teens #easter #newpost @bigpittstop

I bought a basket a bunch of items at the Dollar Store.  So, we are not talking something super expensive here.  What’s more important is that you capture items that represent the stories of Holy Week and you can use the activity to walk through the items together.

I’ll list the items below, but the real lesson was very simple.

  • stuff an Easter basket or other container (plastic tub, bucket, wicker basket, etc would work) with all your items.
  • place bucket in middle of table and ask each student to take and item or 2, depending on the number of students you are working with.
  • Go around the room and see if the students can come up with what their item might represent.  If they can’t, just have them pass until you can come back to them later.  
  • Its important to review all the stories you are covering beforehand.  This will not only give you background knowledge to teach the lesson, but allow you flexibility. Instead of just going around the circle, you might call out items in order and let them guess, then tell the stories of Holy Week in order.
  • Conversation topics:
    • items and story that goes along with them
    • What are things we see at Easter that remind us of Jesus?
    • How can we take the items we have seen today and use them as reminders in our every day lives?
    • How can we take the items we have seen today and use them to start conversations with others about Jesus?
    • What one item that you have seen today will you keep thinking about this next week?

One tool I found really helpful was a listing of the chronological events of Holy Week and scripture references that go with each one.  I think John 18 is a really great, condensed version of many of the stories that happened in the middle of the week.  When I went over this, we talked in specifics about the events of Palm Sunday and Jesus riding into Jerusalem.  We talked about the actions and reactions of the people and how Jesus must have felt that day on the back of the donkey.  (I was trying to set them up for the opposite behavior of the people at the end of the week.) Our next conversation topic was the Last Supper. We talked about the setting – a borrowed friend’s house, reclining on the floor eating, not up on stools at a white cloth table like we usually see.  We talked about Jesus washing the disciples feet and what the conversation was like among the disciples. Our group seemed to think the air was pretty thick and people probably talked in hushed tones.  Many were confused by the things Jesus was saying and Judas specifically probably introduced a paranoid tone to the room. 

Earlier this semester, they spent several weeks demonstrating servant leadership by washing the feet of the children who come to the center on Thursday afternoons.  So, our conversation turned towards Jesus’ washing of the disciples feet and really what He was teaching them in that moment.  Because I knew many of my students were not as familiar with the events in the middle of the week surrounding the trials and mockery, we read through John 18 together.  Again, this is a very condensed version of this part of the story, but it hits the highlights in a way we could cover together in our short time.  Then, we talked about Good Friday.  Oh, how I would have loved to go more into details about the events of the day.  But, instead our conversation turned to the significance of the cross and that really was the most important thing for us to discuss together.  With out the cross, none of it really matters!

We finished our conversation with an empty golden egg. While one of them really wanted there to be candy inside, they understood where we were going.  The empty tomb is what sets the story of Jesus apart from any other story.  The empty tomb is a promise fulfilled.  It was God’s promise to save His people from their sin; eternal separation and damnation.  But, Jesus didn’t stay in the grave. Just as the conversation goes at the beginning of Luke, chapter 24. The words of Jesus himself, “Why are you looking in the place of the dead for someone who is alive? Jesus isn’t here! He has been raised from death.”

I knew yesterday afternoon just how important this conversation could be when I couldn’t find a cross at the store to buy.  I hit 2 dollar stores in my town and neither had anything to do with a cross in their Easter section. Heck, neither had a cross anywhere in their store. That is why we must have this conversation. 

I bet though, you are still wondering, what was in my basket!

Items in my basket:
1. palm branches – Palm Sunday and Jesus’ Triumphal Entry into Jerusalem
2. red wine vinegar and a honey bun (that’s the only “roll” type thing I could find) – Last Supper
3. wash rag – Jesus washed the feet of the disciples
4. seed packet – Jesus praying in the Garden
5. rope – this is where they arrested Jesus and Judas turned Him over
6. screen cleaner kit – the first round of trials found him to have a clean slate
7. sunglasses – Jesus kept his cool, he spent many of the trials just standing in silence and only spoke words of truth and Scripture when called upon
8. Knee support – symbolizing Jesus dragging the cross and falling along the way
9. chicken – Peter denied Jesus 3 times, just as He said he would before the rooster crowed
10. dice – the centurions played games and cast lots for Jesus possessions, making a mockery of Him
11. cross – the point of it all
12. travel pack of toiletries (body wash, lotion, body spray) – Jesus friends came and took care of His body and put Him in a borrowed tomb
12. rock – the tomb, a rock, was put in front of the tomb to seal it and a centurion was assigned to guard it (just in case He might try to get out!)
13. empty golden egg – our story is not over.  He is Risen!

Teaching lessons from the Bible to teens is hard. They are not babies and don’t need all the craft projects.  But, they do need the object lessons and something fun to break it all down help them remember.  Try it. Let me know what works to help you connect with students in your ministry.

an afternoon in an african chapel

I do not believe that God is a God of coincidence. I think He loves details and plans as much as
I do.
2 weeks ago today, I got to spend my afternoon with a group
of women. African women. Elderly women. Honored and revered women. Women, many of whom have known and trusted
Jesus for much of their life.  

The task before me was to teach them. To share a lesson with them. Thankfully I knew ahead of time. I actually knew even before I boarded the
plane to visit them. When the sheet for
trip assignments was passed around the room God said put your name down. I was virtually attending this meeting
through Skype and said if that line was still empty when it came to the end, I
would quickly respond to put my name there. And so, I did.
I tried to open my heart to what God would want me to share
with these women. What could I possibly
as an almost 35 year old woman living in the United States have to share and
connect with a group of 60+ 70+ year old women living in the warm heart of
Africa almost 10,000 miles away from me?
Well, as God usually does, he put a message on my
heart. Then, orchestrated His plan to
put the outline and stories in my path over the coming weeks. The morning I was packing my backs and
putting the final things in the car to head to the airport, he gave me a vision
of the calendar and what would play out back in the states while I was
gone. March 19 was departure day. March
20 was a Monday, the first day of work that I would miss. March 21, 22, 23, and 24 came after that
almost completing the week. Then, I
realized that March 25 would land on that Saturday.  
For 9 years March 25 is a day I way up with a
renewed energy. I breathe the morning
air in a little deeper. My day strolls
by a little slower than usual. It’s the day
I found the big mass on the left side of my neck. It’s the day I was surrounded by incredible
friends in a waiting room at a local hospital waiting for results of a scan
that would determine my future. It’s the
day I consumed a dinner of Oatmeal Crème Pies and Nacho Cheese Doritos. All those things that you expect to go with
that day happened. The emotions, the
conversations, the pit in my stomach, the phone call to my parents. But that night also had laughs, memories, and
big ole’ puppy dog tears.
For me, that is a day that does define a lot of what filled
the days that followed. But, it is not a
day that defined the rest of my life. The 3,285 days that filled the 9 years since are the days that have
defined the rest of my life. In those
days, I’ve learned what surrender, trust and obedience are all about. I’ve come to read deeper the promises of the
Old Testament and God’s conversation with a man named Abraham.
And, that was the story he asked me to share with that widow
group on a cool African Saturday afternoon. You see, I stood between them and…basically nothing. They actually have time in their Saturday to
sit on a porch and talk to their friends. To watch children from their village, who make up the next generation,
play and dance in rain puddles while completing a came of hopscotch. They came to eat a good meal and hear a word
from the Lord. Now, with full bellies and a cool breeze some did sneak in a
little nap or 2, but they listened. And
they responded.

These ladies make a noise with their mouths that can only be
described as a yodel. They “perform” it
in their worship, as their praise, and when they get really excited about something
as a group. I cannot even tell you what
I said, because I frankly don’t remember. But, even through an interpreter God’s promises to Abraham came through.
His promises to bless him for his faithfulness. His promises to make his descendants great for his obedience and
patience. His promise to make him a
gateway to bless others. And, in doing
so to make the name of God spread even further. 

God gave me a vision of the night sky and a reminder of the
dirt we would walk upon. That was the
illustration He wanted to use for those ladies that day.  
I see no greater joy in this life than to be a vessel God
chooses to use to tell His story. Only
God could know 9 years ago that on that day I would stand in a chapel and
fulfill a dream He had placed on my heart. Only God could plan out the details and the timing of His story. Knowing that every turn, bend, misstep,
struggle, and victory along that way would weave a story He wanted to
March 25, 2008 has now been replaced with March 25,
2017. May we not soon forget the story
of God’s fulfilled promises. 

if I were in a speech class

If I were a college student studying Speech Communications as I did 16 years ago, I feel like there would have been a moment this week where we would have dissected a very publicly delivered speech. We would have talked about delivery, preparation, content, and response. We would have talked about, written “feeling” responses to it, and probably changed some of the projects we were working on because of the evaluation we gave.

I’m not interested in looking at the topic or discussing the political implications. I frankly just don’t care and I’m not going there.  I don’t have time for things I can’t change or getting lost in arguments.

But, this afternoon on a drive, I was listening to a podcast that had me thinking. So, I thought I’d use this space to capture some of the mental gristle I’ve been gnawing on this afternoon.

  • It was well delivered. – simple fact
  • When people have a high expectation, give them what they expect.
  • Humor always makes a hard topic palatable.
  • When you know you will have the opportunity to give a speech, make it a good one. – Not every one in the room at the Golden Globes knew they would get to give a speech. They might have prepared thoughts in wishful hope. But, some people in the room and on the program always know they will have the stage, microphone, and attention of the crowd.
  • People will always critique you…especially when you have to deliver the hard stuff. – Do your best, think it through, pray for the results, and own your actions/comment.
  • If you find yourself in a position or power, prestige, or with a platform, use it. – Use it to express your voice. Use it to fight for social injustice. Use it to do the right thing. Use it to make your mama proud (and if necessary, embarrass your kids). Maybe I should say, use it to make your grandpa proud and not embarrass your mama.  

There are moments in life where we mess up – we say the wrong thing
from ignorance, misinformation, inexperience, or sheer stupidity. We
do the wrong thing because we didn’t know any better or in deliberation because we didn’t care.We treat others less than ourselves, judge too quickly, and walk away when we should have turned back.

If lucky, we each find moments in our life, critical moments, where we are given the opportunity to do the right right thing. May we always choose the right decision. May we honor those who afforded us the placement of power in our direction by the way we treat the moment. May we respect the platform we are given by upholding and promoting something bigger than ourselves.

With respect comes responsibility and we owe it to each other, ourselves, and the world around us to develop a legacy in every moment.

Journey on – life is hard, be flexible, enjoy the ride.


In other news, I mentioned earlier that I was listening to a podcast; The Atypical Life podcast in fact.  This is one of my guilty pleasures and should have made my 2016 Favorite Things list.  Matt and Ginny will draw you in.  The topics run the gamut from soul searching, rants about home renovations, discovery of new hair products, and I don’t even know how to describe the moments that make me snort out loud.  Anything that i listen to on the road that makes me want to pull over and take notes is worth sharing with a friend.  So, there.  Go listen to it.  Add it to your cloud for your next road trip.  Pick up at the last episode or go back and listen from the beginning.  Gotta love people who keep it real and raw!

2016 Favorite Things

Each year one of my “reflection” moments involves looking back at my favorite things.  Some are new things I’ve discovered in the year, others are old favorites I cant get away from and the rest…they are just every day, little simples that make my world go round:

2017 Favorite Things List | bigpittstop.com

  • Honey Roasted peanut butter, by the spoonfuls
  • Thomas English Muffins, especially the pumpkin spice ones
  • Hidden Valley Ranch Fiesta dip mix – I’m using it on everything to add a little “zest”
  • Emeril’s Essence – I think I need to make this next year for gifts
  • Sunset magazine – I’m still a Southern Living and Real Simple girl, but this one has opened my world up to a whole part of our nation I’ve really never explored
  • Bic pens – I love a good ball point, no smear, no bleed, smooth writing
  • Tide pods – make my life so much easier…I have issues with the blue liquid drips all over your 
  • getting to shop at the Tyson Family Store – see if you have one near you
  • Dawn Foam Soap
  • White Barn Autumn Days candles – smells like a vacation cabin in the mountains – “home with a little luxury”
  • Mud Pie dishes – love them!
  • CO Bigelow – Magenta Mint lip gloss – goes on top of every shade
  • Instagram – its the only social media I look at every day! Follow me @bigpittstop
  • Mint – it has been a life saver our first year of marriage – #budget #spendingtracker – more on this in 2017
  • buying dog toys – especially chickens!
  • Designated Survivor, Notorious, This Is Us – our DVR is full
  • meals in the mail – pick your pleasure!

3 BIG Things I love:

  • Ibotta –  rebate app that pays me for shopping and buying what I already shop for and buy – use my referral code – jwmhedf – and we can be teammates
  • Word Swag – its my jam…its the app I use to make all my graphics on my phone
  • Canva – use it for work, use it for personal stuff, use it to play….but this site make me feel like a rockstar and has totally changed my graphics game.

#1 Favorite Thing of 2016:

  • Hello Fresh – obsessed – use this code for $20 off your first box

Well, really my mostest, mostest favorite thing of all time in the history of ever….is being Mrs. McKinney….its really the best…and he is the cutest…and we have the most fun!

2016 My Favorite Things - being Mrs. McKinney | bigpittstop.com

What favorite things made your list this year?  I’m always down for something new!

thoughts on giving: let it be

So its that time of year.  We are finishing wrapping presents.  We are working on the order we want people to open them. We are realizing we have 1 big, high value gift for some and 3 small random things for others.

Oh the debacle!!!

What do you do? Do you go by more? Do you feel bad and apologize profusely? Do you stew about it all the way to grandmas? Do you dig around your “gift closet” or look for one extra thing when stopping at that Amish store to get breads and cheese?

What if we just let it be?
What if we bought gifts for people because its what we wanted to give them?
What if we bought gifts for people because its what was on their list?
What if we bought gift for people because we thought they would enjoy them?
What if we bought gifts because the item made us think of them when we saw it?

You know the whole idea of giving and receiving gifts at Christmas stems back to the manger. Gold, Frankincense, Myrrh – yep, that was the line up at the first Christmas gift exchange. But, they were all gift “for” the baby.  They were things that told us something about Him and told us something about those giving the gifts to Him.

What does your gift list this year say about you? Are you a domestic diva, a minimalist, practically perfect, outdoorsey, in a new stage of life, not really needing much and thankful for what you have…?

What do the gifts you are giving this year say about you? Checking the list, preparing the person for the future, personalized, helping prepare for the year to come, observant, thoughtful, diligent or on a mission, just perfect…?

And, where does grace come in? Can we spend a little more time this year just “being” with each other.

What would the gift of words look like this year?
What about a gift of time?
What about a gift of presence?

We give and receive gifts all throughout the year.  Let’s let 2017 set the precedent for being instead of doing. For spending time together instead of dollars for each other.  Let’s honor someone and the things they are committed to by donating time and $$ to their cause.  Reciprocity does not have to win the day.

Give and expect nothing in return!

recipe: Nacho Ranchy Texas Trash

This time of year reminds me of many holiday traditions.

  • church Christmas pageants – you know who you are
  • school choir solos
  • Salvation Army bell ringing
  • family christmas gathering
  • shopping at the school store – you know where you took your parent’s hard earned money and bought them something ridiciously cheap
  • driving around the “fancy” neighborhood looking at christmas lights
  • Ritz crackers and peanut butter covered with chocolate – thank you Uncle Keith!
  • making fudge
  • making sugar cookies
  • making more fudge, because dad ate it all
  • making thumbprint cookies
  • making chocolate crinkles
  • making Texas Trash (Chex mix)

Honestly, making is my favorite thing.  And, making with my mom is my most favorite.  Making a mess, making all her dishes dirty, making my dad crazy….just making at its finest.

Over the weekend, my Love asked if we could make something for his co-workers and i jumped at the chance to get my kitchen (more) dirty! I made a quick trip to the Dollar Tree for buckets and then gathered all the items needed for Chex Party Mix and the extra ones I wanted to make a new version.

Now, at my house growing up, we called this Texas Trash growing up. I know you just rolled your eyes, but I didn’t know any better. We lived in Texas and we stored it in those big popcorn tins which we also used by the couch as a trash can.  Context clues…it all came together.

Since my brand new baby niece is about to make her grand appearance, I thought it would be fun to share my new version that I’m calling Nacho Ranchy Texas Trash…but I’m guessing we will really land on calling it Grandad Crunch!

Nacho Ranchy Texas Trash (Chex Party Mix): Grandad Crunch | bigpittstop.com

I can see it now.  My dad would get a red Tupperware Tumbler and sit in “his seat” on the couch and crunch away as he scrolled through between any variety of “boy movies” and 10 o’clock news.  I love those memories and a new baby niece to make more with. Now she gets to smell the stinky breath that comes with the yummiest Granddad Crunch!

Are there people in your family that have a signature item they always request or eat?

Gift Guide: for the Hostess with the McMostess

Let’s be honest, its a mind boggling thing this time of year – the hostess gift.

Do you get one? What is too much? What if you are the only one who brings something? What is too small? Is it one size fits all? What if there is more than one host?

So, what is appropriate this time of year?

  • Hand Towels – holiday specific or just fun and every day
  • Coffee – a bag of ground coffee or Kcups rarely are a disappointment…bonus points if it has a story and a cause! And a gift card to Starbucks or their favorite local spot works here too.
  • Sonic Gift Card – 2 words: Happy Hour
  • Favorite Beverage – juice, wine, burbon,fancy tea in sachets or grounds, again…coffee
  • Candle – only if you know their “scent theme”
  • Monogrammed anything – napkins, zipper bag, stationary 
  • iTunes card – these are one size fits all and can be used for whatever they like…like buying music for their patio party.
  • Homemade Treat – they are always making and doing for everyone else…a treat for themselves is a rarity
  • Fancy Cleaning Supplies – there is a store off the square in Fayetteville and they have the most fin cleaning supplies…I always covet them and have a friend who gets a set each fall – but even a little goodie basket of Meyer cleaning supplies is not something you always get yourself! 
  • Ornament – if they have a theme they decorate for each year or just something new that makes you think of them.
  • Bonus Idea: give a gift in their name to cause they advocate for are involved in.

Keep it simple, keep is personal.  That’s what the Hostess with the McMostess is in to afterall!

What did I leave off the list?  Or, what gift have you received as a hostess that you loved?

being the hostess with the mcmostess

I mentioned earlier this week that we got to host a crew last week for a little Christmas gathering in our new town.

Now, this is something I love doing, but I know hosting people is not
always easy for everyone. Here are a few things to keep in mind, to keep
your tinsel from getting in a tangle!

Oh how I love this time of year. Always easy built in reasons to host people, spread some cheer, make homemade goodies, get out the dishes you never use and rub elbows with your honey as you clean up after a house full.  
What’s your favorite things about this time of year?